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You do not have to go for your full potential

In family on March 17, 2019 at 08:02

Recently there has been a scandal where a number of parents have been charged with over-coaching and bribing of school officials even using private firms specializing in bending the educational system over its boundaries.

There have always been educational consultants and their work has always been controversial. A lot of them gets kickbacks from wilderness program, residential treatment programs and prison-like boarding schools. The educational consultants the parents involved in this scandal used, took another approach. They faked papers, so the children looked like super-athletes. They got forehand notice of tests, so they could target the coaching, so the children passed exams easily.

The worst part is that the children properly could have lived good lives. Being a youtuber and influencer has little to do with which school you attend while you are building your business. The local university or even a daytime job at a burger-joint enjoying a McJob career going nowhere does not matter, if it is what makes you happy.
I say to my children “I do not care what you want to do in your adult life if you do not become a drug dealer or parking attendant.”

Still I find myself paying DKK 20,000 to a super-expert in a math. Program called Maple and in couching my child into the area of geometry and trigonometry. Am I then not preaching double standard?

No. Because it was not my decision to enter the school. It was the choice of my child. It was the recommendation from the teachers in the elementary school that my child could excel even he had 12 to 14 math. Teachers during his first 9 years of schooling because the Danish parliament decided to destroy the free public schooling in Denmark and motivate rich parents to pay for private school. In just one year, 70 percent of the teachers quit because being a teacher could no longer support a normal life. The teachers simply retired if they had the option or moved to other lines of business. My child suffered as result of the governments decision. There are areas where the teaching simply did not stick.

But once again. My child decided to attend the school – not me. My child was ready to do the work it took. But the skills lacked and while I make it certain that quitting school will not be a disappointment to me, I also bought a few hours of private teaching just to see if it would work having private lessons once per week. It did! We are back on the right track. It might not be the best high school exam, my child will earn, but it is a goal achieved and even if my child after passing high school will not attend further schooling and start a McJob career flipping burgers until retirement, I will not be disappointed.

I have another child looking into which university to attend. Whether my child will go down that path or not, is not for me to decide. I will accept whatever decision. I am a Dane born in the 1960’s. I have learned that hard work doesn’t necessary pay.

  • The government will cut early retirement regardless of how hard you work.
  • The government will punish you by removing your civil rights if you choose to work abroad so you never can return to Denmark.
  • The government will destroy your children’s schooling despite how much taxes your hard work brings to their table.
  • The government will force you to pay for the cure of your children’s if it a mental (and in Denmark shameful) illness despite how hard you work paying 50 percent or more of your income in taxes.

So, my children shall not see hard work as a thing, they should be proud of. They shall work hard if they like it, not because they should expect some kind of bonus or thanks for it.

In the end it is what they want, not what I want.

That is why I see parents as plain out stupid if they force their children into wilderness programs, special boarding schools, treatment centers etc. just because they as parents feel that their children do not aim to fulfill their full potential.

That is why I see parents as plain out stupid if they bribe people to let their children attend universities when all the child wants is to party at a local school instead.

None will put up a monument once you are gone for pushing your children to do more that they want. All you achieve instead is to push them away from you.

Remember that. You only get one chance as a parent to do it right.


Car trouble

In family on June 14, 2016 at 18:52

As I wrote late 2015 I got a new car.

It makes trouble. It is some kind of electronics.

At the same time the car has proven difficult to drive. My son says that I have to buy special tires for the winter but really – the car dealer told me that I got all-year round tires with the car when I purchased it. Otherwise I would have put pressure on the car dealer to give me extra tires included in the price.

A new set of tires are very expensive because the European Union has made a law where new cars have to have a kind of Formula One technoligy inside so the driver can see the tire pressure all the time. What good is that for? If I get a flat I can feel it at once.

It makes sense on a racing track where you go 100 miles per hour but we cannot go anywhere with that kind of speed because the central government over at the small island where Copenhagen is placed has introduced very low speed limits so their small island might be felt bigger than it is. I have no use for information about tire pressure.

When you put in a lot of computers in the car you will get a lot of computer trouble because the car is outside where everything can get wet.

It miss my old car.

Round and round and round they go

In family on May 12, 2016 at 19:01

Was with my oldest son out watching Speedway. You know something about motorcycles going round and round on a track while they drift through the dirt. Very boring but what dont you do for your children.

The most boring hours I have spent for months.

Then of course as father and son we ate once it was over. Real burgers for real men!

That is something I remember when I look back. The many times we ate together. Meals are when family come together.


Death in the family

In family on February 16, 2016 at 19:16

It is always a loss when someone in your family departs from this world.

It makes you think about if you have seen what you really like before it is too late.

In a quiet moment, I sat down and gave my thoughts.

Do I miss to see something?

Yes, of course I would like to see grandchildren being born before it is too late.

As for places on the earth, there is nothing more for me to see. I have been to Germany once. I do not need to see anything else abroad. For me Denmark is the world. It has everything I want to see.

It was my cousin who checked out. According to his wife and children, he also got a full life to live before he passed away. 39 he became. It was cancer, which claimed him. I visited him a couple of months ago in Ringsted where he lived. It is a small cold town in the center of Sealand. Difficult to drive to. You have to pass Fyen, which is just something you have to get over with.

He was a peace with himself. Looking back at what he considered a full life. His only regret was that he did not get to see his kids grow into adults and of course – no grandchildren. He had known that there was nothing to do for some while and they prepared by moving into something smaller which was one of the reasons I were over there as I helped carrying stuff to their new place.

Besides the issue with the children and possible grandchildren, he did not mind checking out now because he was a highly specialized Navision XAL person, which was a program Navision no longer sells. From being a specialist, he became an untrained worker, as it is too expensive to train an old man like him for a new system. 80,000 DKK was the price he had to put on the table to get the courses. It would not be fair for any firm considering the few years he had left in the workforce.

So he reached the end at age 39. At least he died as a satisfied and comforted man. We will now gather in the family so we can support the relatives left behind as much as possible. The world is changing and life kicks many people to the side roads these years where they are left behind because big companies move to new software and technologies without considering that the old things were something people lived off.

Even I fail to keep up pace.

2015 was a busy year

In family on December 31, 2015 at 18:30

2015 is almost over and it is time to reflect on the year.

Privately we got a new car. The old one didn’t pass the audit Danish cars have to go through every second year. I knew it was coming as it wanted to go right every time I pushed the break. It had been so for almost a year and it became more difficult to drive every day. However since they demanded audit every second year it has also been the old time cars need to go to the repair shop. Can it be fixed so the audit can be passed or not? In the old days I took the car to the repair shop whenever something was broken but then the parliament passed the law and I adjusted to it.

I was fond of the old car but life has to go on. The new car is also great but it will not be the same. Changing your car is just like work. Co-workers have to be replaced when their skills are not up to date. We changed to the new Navision program this year and we had to let go of two old co-workers who used to be good in the old system also from the same company. Education in Navision is expensive. There are few places you can upgrade your employees which makes the various providers of these courses agree upon a very high price. So old employees are not upgraded. They are let go. Even huge companies like Netcompany who was just sold to FSN Capital doesn’t hire old experienced worker because it is too expensive to upgrade them combined with the knowledge that they don’t have as many years left in the working field as young employees.

I am somewhat happy that I am not working with computers. It is shortlived career just as those drunken realitystars we watch on TV.

Privately we had a wet summer but also sunny days in between. The winter so far has been mild but in Denmark it means flooding and a lot of rain. Forget the third world photos of people trying to save their belonging.

Flooding in Denmark are just as common and many people lose their home every year. A relative live just west of Copenhagen and north of Roskilde. People are constantly being put out of their homes due to intense flooding. Maybe these cities should never be rebuilt as it is too costly to built dams to keep them safe.

They should try to be refugees in Sweden instead now where nature has forced them on the run but Sweden have closed their borders for refugees.

In my private time I volunteer for human rights organizations. This month I received the happy news that Carlbrook – a therapeutic boarding school in the United States closed.

Earlier this year the trial against Solhaven in Denmark didn’t result in the expected outcome but at least their business is not back on the old level as before the police intervened.

Next on the list is rumored to be Liahona Academy near Virgin in Utah but that I will save for another blog on another time. It is just a question about pounding and pounding on them until their economy breaks down. It is a lesson learned from a couple of years back when we Danes during our proudest hour won the cartoon war.

Will 2016 bring good news or bad news to our small hamlet year Horsens where I live?

It is hard to say.

For now I will focus on the last hours of 2015. There are still a lot to do before I can call it a rest.

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