Yesterday the Danish television focused on forced adoptions in Denmark. The budgets of the social services are under pressure and a number of sad cases in the foster care system have made it expensive to monitor foster families. To save money the social services has been granted easier access to requesting forced adoption of children under their supervision. Adoption families only require a onetime approval and no supervision after the child has been placed. It is an easy way to save money.
One of the former mothers in the program had endured a brain damage during a routine operation due to a mistake done by the medical staff. It led to the loss of her child. She had willingly given up her child for it to be placed in the foster care system because she wanted the best for her daughter but now the system took her child forever. For 8 years she had known her daughter. Now she will have to wait 10 years and hope that the child will seek her birth mother.
I am torn between being a parent and a tax-payer in this case. As a parent I would never imagine that a traffic accident or any other operation which left me alive should result in the loss of my children because a case worker would want to save money.
As a tax-payer I understand that our system is under pressure. Of course we have the migration crisis where the central government in Copenhagen ordered the social services and schools to take care of the immigrants and refugees without giving them money. As result a massive number of tent cities will be built all over Denmark so the migrants can live there. But all research show that even the best group home or foster family can do little about the destiny a child faces based on the social heritage of the child. Very often the child lives in the foster family or group home until they are adults. If they are lucky they return to their birth family and start to live the life they lived before placement and their future children will be known in the system. If they are unlucky they will have to live on their own. Forced adoption could mean the difference.
So it is basically money against feelings.
It is a tough question.
Seeing the grief not only the mother and father of the adopted child endured but all their extended family also who lost a relative almost as it was killed in an accident brought a tear into my eye.
Denmark has become a cruel place to live as result of us opening Denmark to the world as result of our membership of the European Union. Our status as a welfare country is at stake. Of course in the future many Danish parents who cannot produce children on their own will gain access to a number of the children of migrants when they are given permanent residential status and the traumas of their parents prove too hard to treat. But it will still be traumatic experience for the parents who lose their children.