I happens to follow the news surrounding the now cancelled TV-show “XX kids and counting”.
The right name should be “look inside at twisted Quiverfull cult”. The kids have no real freedom. They might not stone the children if they disappoint the parents but the kids and relatives not living up to the parent’s standard are being shunned. They even control the teenagers past the point where normal parent’s role change from upbringing to guidance. Here in Denmark it starts when the child is confirmed. Here the child is introduced to alcohol by the parents as part of our Old Danish tradition. Unlike kittens human children have eyes. They start from very early age to hold us parents accountable observing if we hold ourselves to the standards we preach.
We have to show our children that our standards are more than words. They admire us and want to live as us. If we live a life where we say one thing and do another the children will turn out exactly the same. There is something like music and Internet you say. There have always been things which could lead the children down the wrong path. There have always been kids who took the wrong path long before Internet, television and rock groups.
My children not fully grown drink unsupervised. My children not fully grown date unsupervised. My oldest is over 16 and can buy alcohol alone in shops as long as the alcohol percentage is below the safe limit of 16.5. I am not worried. They have been me attending a number of parties where I have chosen not to drink and still have been able to have a fun time.
They had a boy who was indecent against his siblings – a reaction which properly was result of someone being indecent with him. I am not accusing the parents. I am simply pointing on basic knowledge that incest often is result of dysfunctional family patterns. It could be a grandparent or an uncle or some man in their enclosed social circle which set the young man off towards the wrong path.
Here I to state that I am shocked by the approach the family took. They involved the authorities on a very small level. Where is the investigation into who mislead the young man motivating him to be indecent towards his sisters?
Then there is the choice of the so-called treatment center the young man was sent to. It was a joke. The authorities will hopefully conduct a full investigation into this place so it can be closed down and all employees can be prosecuted if they have done something wrong.
Such stories make me sad. I have a family member who was abroad fighting for our way of life when Denmark shipped its old and worn-down air-fleet down to the Middle East to fight ISIS. Why should our troops risk their lives when our allies live a life holding female offspring’s into iron grips just like the people we fight?
I see no point in involving ourselves in the surrounding world when people live like this abroad. Recently I have started to help various human rights groups to reduce the number of exchange students leaving Denmark for a year abroad. There is no point sending them to foreign countries where they cannot drink and date like they do in Denmark.
Normally television can be informing. In this case it is scary. The latest in this story is that the young man – now an adult and forced into marriage too soon has been checking himself into rehab for his so-called sex addiction. It is close to being a farce.