Of course we as parents always wish that our children will reach far in life.
Of course we wish that they reach as far as we believe that they have to potential to reach.
But what if we are wrong? What if we believe that their potential is greater than it is in reality?
Regardless of us trying our best we cannot always see to that our children get the best teaching. It took years before I realized that a kindergarten teacher one of my kids had the discomfort to be taught by was in fact an alcoholic. It took years before another teacher was revealed to be a bully. I participated in a number of activities at the school my children attended. Still I missed the signs just as many other parents did.
Of course there were complaints. But both addicts and people suffering from anger problems while having secured trusted positions are often master manipulators. Often your observations are not enough. Often you have to talk to the right people to see the picture.
Often your child is too scared to tell what is really going on in class. Your children want to learn. They quickly adapt to the environment being run by an alcoholic or a bully.
So why you believe that your children have got the best education possible and will reach far in life they could be damaged.
Then the damage happen when you continue to expect that they can be successful and your children do not want to disappoint you. So they end up hurting not being able to live up to your expectation. For some they come to the conclusion that they cannot live being such a disappointment. So they commit suicide.
At Appalachian State University the third student has been found dead. It is not a special case. Suicides are on the raise. It is the cost of globalized competition. In Denmark some people are talking of putting more children in foster care. No because the children are molested or neglected in traditional understanding. No, the children should be put in foster care because the parent’s social station and heritage prevent them from outliving their potential.
Has the globalized competition gone too far?
Let’s agree that a life can be a good life even if the child decides to drop out and live a life’s earning based low-income jobs!
My children know that they have my love regardless of their choice of career. Even if they never chose and just live on welfare seeking other goals in life. My great-grand fathers came from the working class. My goal in life is only to serve the employer I have been granted a position at in the best possible way. Others may take the credits for orders landed by me. For me that is not important. For me the only thing which counts is that I will be able to look in the mirror and be proud. Of course I risk being fired if others take the credits for my work but I don’t care because I only wish to serve.
I am sorry for the families who lose young family members because those family members believe that they are disappointments. Stop seeking top positions. Stop the globalized competition. Please let us live peacefully in our own small close boxes based on our cultural values.
Maybe then these senseless deaths will stop.
Police find third Appalachian State student dead Citizen Times