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Update on the rape case

In Uncategorized on July 24, 2013 at 20:46

The Norwegian woman is now back in Norway after her case were debated on this blog and many others.

She was pardoned and while it is good for her that she could return home and avoid further time behind bars, the pardon itself still makes it look like she had done something wrong by letting herself being drugged and raped.

Working, studying or even spending a holiday in a country where the general behavior is so different that we see in Denmark seems impossible for me. Just the other day a Danish newspaper informed us citizens that the best way to boost your career and remain in touch with job-openings in Denmark is to drink with your boss. Networking is an art our students learn in the Friday bars on our high school campuses. More than 70 percent of all jobs in Denmark are found by networking instead of applying to a newspaper ad.

Then there is the team spirit issue. Here in Denmark it is often stated that Human Resource work consist of a beer after work every Friday and a 5 minutes so-called career development talk every 18 month. It is just that important to be with your co-workers.

Then there is the question why the management of The One Total Home Experience allowed a known womanizer alone. They should know that it would create difficulties or risk of lawsuits over time. Even if the behavior is considered a tradition a new order of high morale will mean trouble for any firm.

In Denmark it was normal behavior for people in the construction business to have quite wild Christmas parties. Back in 2001 a 25 year old woman entered such a party and ended up having sex with 5 of the employees. At a lower court the men were acquitted because people from the working class are expected to jump any female form and women should know that. But the prosecution appealed and the men were sentenced to 2 years in prison. Most saw it as a sign to alter old tradition even though some stated that the mental state of the woman should have meant that the men should have known that she should need a special kind of protection. I believe that firms regardless of the alleged mental status of the woman should have known the writings on the wall. We live in a globalized world where individual countries and business cannot live freely as in the old days.

For Dubai it means that a lot will be done to ensure that tourists will chose other countries where it is legal to drink and have sex outside the marriage. Countries where the women fell that some take them serious even if it don’t result in conviction because where many tourists are in town it is of course difficult to find the criminal.

For The One Total Home Experience there is only one thing to say. Do not work for that firm! It is not worth it regardless of the sunny surroundings. If the firm don’t back you up and helps you to escape local justice then don’t work abroad for it. They should have lawyered her up right away and helped her out of the country. Then they could have fired her if the alleged rapist was a top-sales person and they couldn’t do without the sale the alleged rapist generate.

The entire case could have been resolved so much smarter with money on the table. Outside the borders of Denmark justice is equal a lot of money.

If you need further advice I can only recommend that you consult the Danish Emigration institute as I stated in a previous post.

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THE One Total Home Experience in Dubai is not a good place to work

In Uncategorized on July 19, 2013 at 18:37

An employee is raped and they will not even tell that to her family back home in Norway. Later they made the choice to fire her. Perhaps because the person who raped her also worked for the firm and made a lot of money for them.

Because the rape took place in Dubai where there is no such thing as a rape victim she was convicted in court for extramarital sex, drinking alcohol and obstruction of the justice through lying to the police. If she should have won in court the local law demands that she should have 4 male witnesses to prove a rape charge. How would this be possible?

Remember that taking a job abroad can mean that you have no protection legally. If any Danes want to work abroad please consult experts like those who volunteer for the Danish Emigration Institute.

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To be stigmatized

In Uncategorized on July 13, 2013 at 06:44

A reply to one of my previous posts has made me thinking. One of my children is ill and the social services have demanded that I pay for the treatment because I as a parent have genes which are to blame for the condition.

In Denmark we have laws which were made to make parents pay who marry within the family (like second cousins) and the relationship creates children will expensive illnesses the society have to cure. In my family we have a history of illness and when my family was hit with a tragedy I had a dark period where I wasn’t speaking with many people. I found relief in my garden and my work. But my family needed more than a dad who came around with money and was gardening so I visited my doctor and spoke with mental guy. It was on record and when my child became ill with a more severe depression the blame was quickly put on me because if you were not aware depression can infect those you live with.

Had I know I would have carried a stick with a bell so I could have warned people in advance before I approached them. I am not from an upper-class family so we had no tradition with boarding schools. We don’t have this urge with self-realization some parents have. We don’t expect to pay for the education of our children because we pay more than 50 percent of our income in taxes. We have a gap of 7 years to catch up with when it comes to retirement age because the normal retirement age of 60 has been raised to 67 which is a higher number than male family members expect to live in my family. My father died when he was 63 and two of my uncles died age 59 and 61. It is a heart condition which cannot be treated outside Copenhagen and because hospitals in my region of Denmark has to pay to refer a heart patient to Copenhagen they don’t refer people. People die instead and in fact I don’t mind dying if I die protecting the economy of the local community. Just if I at the very end can look back of a good life with perhaps just a couple of good years in the end in retirement. It doesn’t seem that I can reach that goal in life.

Because of the demand of payment the social services have put forward I cannot save money enough for early retirement and having served in the highest position I could expect to reach regarding my business career since age 30 all I do is trying to keep more ambitious people from claiming my job. Just a little more than 10 years before the end of my life I seem to have lost it all.

My child is improving and will return home where we hope that the period in the life of my child will never be mentioned again. But then what comes after? Will we be forced to sell our house and move out in the country where housing is cheaper but where we would be aliens and our children will have fewer opportunities regarding education and job?

I fell stigmatized due to the economically consequences of my illness. I have destroyed the future I had for the entire family and what about my children? Can they establish their own family at one time? Because they have the same genes! They might be forced to pay if their children will catch depression.

The future is not bright.

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Law number 498 from 2011 (Link in Danish)

Reply to Charles regarding previous entry

In Uncategorized on July 10, 2013 at 05:36

Charles wrote as reply to Paris Jackson to be sent to a dangerous boarding school:

Ever see that State Farm commercial where the girls has a date with the “french model” she found on the internet?? Seems like this is a classic case of “the internet is always right” I tried to find anything substantial about Diamond Ranch Academy and all I found was a few activists sites and kids who were still angry, making claims that, if indeed were true, would surely result in severe lawsuits. Lawsuits are public record and, therefore, easy to find online. There are absolutely no lawsuits that have been or are filed against DRA, so I am inclined to believe that the claims are all false. Not even the parents of the kid who died filed any claims against DRA. I have heard of these places that do engage in abuse, and they all get shut down. This place has been up and running for almost 15 years and has a clean record. Seems like a no brainer.

The Internet doesn’t remember all. They were located in Idaho and the authorities intervened so they moved to Utah. Years back there were still articles online covering all which took place in Idaho. Unfortunately they are no longer online. However the authorities in Idaho intervened for a reason and it could be nice if anyone researched what took place around year 2000, so the difference between what the various states accept can be brought into light.

You have to look at the fact that the authorities in two states – Missouri and Utah – neglect their oversight of such facilities. In Missouri facilities just have to claim that they are religious. Then they can beat up the students all they want. Only one facility has been closed by the authorities because the students started to kill each other. The management then started a new school which continues to be open.

In Utah you have to kill a student before the authorities will shut a facility. In fact the only facility which was closed without a death recorded on the campus was Brightway Adolescent Hospital because it was so openly a scam. But this ruling did not affect a number of facilities owned by the same company being a part of the same system.

I know for a fact that the first autopsy of the boy who died there in 2009 gave no result of why he died. Second it is not known how much the 2012 wildfires endangered the students. The road to the old campus was closed and it was really the only road out of there. There are many questions surrounding Diamond Ranch Academy and it is just a question about finding enough former students to establish a pattern about what is going on there. You mention the Internet. It is really the cause of the downfall of the industry. Before the Internet the students could not make people understand what they went through. They were isolated with their emotional baggage caused by such places. Their family could not understand them because the communication were cut and letter/phone calls censored. With the Internet students can get confirmation that they were not alone about suffering in the programs.

Here in Denmark we also have realized that you cannot challenge students without costs. Boarding schools all over Denmark close due to a reduced number of students seeking them. Just a few years back they hadn’t rooms for students because the students came willingly because they would break the social heritage by being challenged and they could remain in a sober-living environment (It is legal for teenagers in Denmark drink alcohol regardless of age and they can buy alcohol on their own when they are 16). But as I told challenging comes with a cost and the 2011 Præstø Fjord dragon boat accident really proved that it could endanger the lives of the students if they are taken out of their ordinary daily lives to be pushed beyond their borders. Parents accept in a higher degree that you end up with a life you are born into based on social heritage. Expanding the abilities of the teenagers and personal development is simply no longer accepted and it has resulted in closure of many boarding schools.

Back to Diamond Ranch Academy; I know that they have changed the program lately. They are no longer a ranch in the desert. It is a school based on pushing the students into sport hoping that they can get success using small victories in sports as tool to handle their emotional problems.

It would also be difficult using their old punishment method – forcing students to push and pull Mormon handcarts filled with heavy stone around the campus all day and still protect the students from the media now where the campus is located near a public road (Sand Hollow Road). Fact is that this kind of punishment – often put upon the students for not accepting the program – don’t belong in a modern world. Remember that they are not convicted in court. They are innocent people who should be free to walk the roads. Instead they are imprisoned. What does it matter whether the prison has curtains instead of bars? They are put there and are supposed to serve a sentence often for something is not even criminal.

In other states teenagers like Paris Jackson would have patient’s rights. She would have access to a lawyer. She would have access to a grievances procedure. She would have access to have her commitment at the programs judged by a court. In Utah she is being robbed of her rights. They can keep her there until she is 18 and she would miss several years of her life. For what? Nothing!

She is of course unhappy having lost a parent and some might even have been bullying her. And normally it could have been handled with a weekly visit to a therapist. Instead she is being sent to a place where she is denied access to the world and to activities normal teenagers participate in. It can only affect her life in a negative direction. I believe that a stay in Utah does not serve her interest like it hadn’t with other teenagers who had been sent to this place before her. If I can make a difference shutting such places like Diamond Ranch Academy down, I would certainly do it.

However I live in Denmark and all I can do is to appeal to our politicians to shut boarding schools, foster families and group homes down in Denmark down. For facilities abroad I can only bring awareness about the possible abuse and I guess that I have been successful doing this since you have commented my blog.

Paris Jackson to be sent to a dangerous boarding school

In culture on July 8, 2013 at 05:34

As I mentioned in a previous post, Paris Jackson is about to be sent to a prison styled boarding school. Diamond Ranch Academy is a place where at least one boy has died while he was detained there.

I have searched for testimonies from youth who have been there in the past and it is not a pretty picture they draw of this place.

Wasn’t she supposed to get some kind of help for her problems? Is the answer to suicide attempts punishment? It certainly seems so.

She cannot maintain regular contact and visits home every 14 day as it is normal for treatment facilities here in Denmark.

Had I been her guardian’s shoes I would have chosen a normal boarding school in California and included regular visits to a therapist in the package. It would have served her better.

This could kill her just as the Posttraumatic stress caused the premature death of one of the Osmond kids. It is just sad.

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