A Lynn-woman wrote this comment on my blog:
Yes, please help spread the word out the Circle of hope is a SCAM! they just steal the parents money and do not educate the children in fact they mainly are slave labor for them to sit around and nap ! I sent my daughter there as I was told it was a loving caring christian enviroment anything BUT THAT more like Satan torment! I so wish I had never spend the thousands there that I did ! They deserve to be in jail, for the fraud and the deciet that they trap people into!
It is properly an reaction on one of my previous blogs: Reeducation – parents and other countries can learn from Denmark.
I did a little digging. After the news of a foreign runaway hit the news the so-called boarding school got some more attention in the news that they properly preferred because the homepage of the school is down.
I know what you will say. She could have double-checked the school, so she didn’t fall into a trap. It is easy to say. Where should she double-check the school? Fact is that there were no groups for former “students” on either MySpace or Facebook. In the United States they used so-called educational consultants instead of social workers to find special schools for children with special news. They are paid by the parents but very often also paid by the schools they refer students to. Would they alarm the authorities if something goes wrong?
No, course not. Just as a social worker in Denmark would not report incidents at a Danish boarding school, group home or at a foster care family because then they would have to admit that they did a mistake by referring a child to that place. Down near a town called Mern they had a foster care scandal with reports of possible abuse in the system for almost 10 years. It is only now where the political winds are changing and social workers have become proud of their work so they don’t ship kids away from their desk but fix them at home where they should have belonged from the start that such problems surface.
Denmark’s Radio did broadcast a documentary about such a place near Ringkoebing. They broke the children down. Everyday clothes you will see being worn at the nearest public school was not OK. Jewelry worn by generations was not OK. Every little thing which was part of the children’s identity was stripped away. It was as they were not allowed to have some basis from their family to build upon. It all had to go.
I cannot judge Circle of Hope Ranch. I cannot state that it was a better or worse place compared to Schuberts Minde, which the Danish program was about. But I could see that Schuberts Minde was not a good place to let kids be housed. Maybe as a strict punishment for murder or something like that but not as a help for children who is basically just exploring what they can make it to in a world moving all too fast and no room for a break where you can gather your mind.
Yesterday a lot of boarding schools had open house. If you were looking for a break as parent, would you see the nothing but the truth if you visited them yesterday?
No of course you would not. This Lynn-mother did properly visit the ranch before she sent her child and she was properly met by happy residents. It is easy to promise kids that they can earn some benefits and return home to their parents faster if they smile. In Denmark I know that a lot of kids at boarding schools are hurting but they are trying to stay proud because the schools cost a lot of money. People I have met during my adult life (I have not been at a boarding school) tell me that it is difficult to find peace. Everything is moving fast 24/7. There are always people around you and most important. Whenever you return home it is suddenly difficult to be alone and you cannot reenter your family unit in the same role as before. Childhood ends with a stay in boarding school and it cannot be reversed.
To parents I can only say. Think more than twice before you ship your child off or accept the advice of a social worker.
You have the final word and it is not a pleasant job to pick up the pieces afterwards.