A 15 year old girl ran away not far from here. She has been away for 14 days and now both the police and the social services know where she is. She had met a boy on a social network and
They will try to negociate her back to her family.
It was then I came to think of how wise we are here in Denmark. They don’t want to use ressources on getting her back to her family and then wait for her to take off once more.
So there it has to be couseling until they reach an agreement and she WANTS to live back home again.
See there is a explanation of why it is decades since we saw a kid killing her or his parents. There are no reason for creating tragedies like we saw in the cases of Valessa Robinson and Erin Caffey.
I learned of those stories when I finished a not so well written story called Rattlesnake Romeo.
It is the story of a girl who discovers that her mom wants to jail her at a farm called Steppin’Stone for a full year without contacts to her peers or other side of her family. It seems that there was some kind of divorce of her parents and she Valessa had problems with the house rules. What kind of teenagers don’t?
I have looked at the farm and it looks at extreme as our Evangelista or Faderhus. If I was in the shoes of the teen, I would fear for my life, but I would not kill my parents. I would have run away and chosen to live in a shelter instead.
But we have to remember that Valessa was a teenager. She must have learned of the horror stories from other teenagers, who were in Straight Inc. or at WWASP facilities. Some may remember how teenagers were placed in dog cages down at a private Mexican Boot Camp. The Police in Mexico shut several programs down in 2004 and 2005. All of them had problems with medication, VISA’s and punishment rooms.
Erin Caffeys case was different. She was home-schooled and not properly prepared for a social life in such a degree that she was out of touch with reality. In Denmark we know how important it is for kids to socialize. That why our alcohol laws are relaxed.
Now they are using 30 or more years to jail her. By doing that they acknowledge that homeschooling is a failure.
1) Let your parents find their partneres of their own.
2) Dont’t monitor them very much once they are confirmed.
3) If their grades are poor, don’t worry. The grade system is ill. A lot of young people graduated High School in Denmark this year, but now they have to take summer classes because of an error in the department of education.
Maybe by following thid advices, you as a parent will stay alive