A ranch-worker lost his life at Turn-about Ranch, which is one of the asylums mentioned in relationship with the Dr. Phil show. Recently a girl was sent there after one of the shows.
A confrontable setting ensures drama and it was really a question of time before such a tragedy happened. The teenagers are not stupid but many lacks the capacity to plan for long-term goals. If you only planned for the today, wouldn’t you switch for a nice warm prison cell instead of being forced to sit in the open exposed to the sunlight? Wouldn’t you eat the crappy prison food instead of having to drink water from a creek and cold unprepared food because you lack the skill to make fire on your own? Wouldn’t you like to sleep in a warm cell instead of a cold cabin where even the sleeping bag are not working because the employees at the ranch has purposely destroyed the zippers so they can search the sleeping bags more easily? Wouldn’t you like 23 hours of privacy, TV-access instead of having people running around placing you in stress positions in a small circle of stones until you confess to whatever your parents ordered the employees to pressure you to confess to?
There was a reason for the escape attempt and the tragic attack, which lead to the death of an employee.
It was a tragic death, which was something, which could have been prevented by stopping the activities at the ranch.
Now a family lost a parent. A boy will spend many years in prison because he is an outsider from another state properly not even sharing the same belief as the people around the ranch. Not even the best lawyers can save him in this state.
This case proves once again that there is a high cost to pay for people who were treated against their will. No addiction can be so bad that you cannot wait until the person discover on own terms that the time has come to stop the addiction and move on. Yes, opportunities in life might be missed while the addiction is bad but then which opportunities? We know in Denmark that not even when you work hard and you have the skills success is ensured. If you are born from poor parents, immigration and foreign students has robbed our system blind so student grants are cut to such an extend that education and access to the good jobs are simply not possible. None should be forced to establish debt in order to get an education.
Instead people should try to settle with what they got and live like the teenagers. Tomorrow a car can hit you. Tomorrow the government can prevent your path towards the education system. Tomorrow the government can cut early retirement and stop what you might have been saving for the last 20 years. Life is like a boxing match and sometime you just have to take the punches like they come. So if your children isolate themselves instead of going out to drink in order to socialize with the other teenagers, accept it.
In Denmark teenagers who are not drinking so much that they are close collapsing being the troubled teens everyone are concerned about. The concern is caused by a case from Kundby where a 16-year-old girl isolated herself only to be arrested shortly before the bombs she had built were to explode at certain schools. Parents try to push their children into the nightlife so they do not built bombs and do not drive Lorries into Christmas market as outside terrorist try to make the teenagers do over the Internet. However, what is the chance that a girl or a boy is radicalized over the Internet? Should Denmark remove all teenagers who are introvert or simply have too many cat-like teddy bears in their room when they are teenagers? No – of course not. They should simply let the children live their life and talk with them from time to time, so the children experience counteraction against the arguments on the Internet. A hands off policy will enable even the quiet children to have a good life with pressure all the time.
The articles from Utah mentioned that the boy, who committed the attack suffered from some kind of addiction. Certainly, his parents regret that they just did not let things go instead of sending him to Utah. It is really a question of sacrifice. It is a question about using the scorched earth strategy. Remove anything from your home, which can enable the addiction. Not only from the room of your child but also from the rest of the house. Provide a roof and plenty of food. At some point, the person with the addiction will reach out for help. Then there are plenty of professional treatment programs both in-patient and outpatient where the addict enjoy a professional treatment in comfortable surroundings. Cure is assured.